Assignment 2: Beauty and Objectification.

The media, the commercials etc. They all use sexual objectification of women to sell.
How dare they!
It must just be a social construct based on patriarchy and can’t be basic human biology now can it? Nonetheless, if you are disturbed by sexual objectification by the media and advertisements,  I think that a good rule of thumb would be: “Don’t get your morals and ethics from the media or from advertisements!”

We agree that both genders are objectified. Men are usually objectified through their utilities and resources, where women view the man as a provider and simply as a money maker. If a woman is only interested in a man only because of how much money he has, then this is financial objectification.
Women can be objectified, when men view them as sexual objects.  Now if you think that all men objectify all women then you’re already on the wrong.
Some women are objectified more than others. Why do you think that is? What are some tools that women use to purposely and potentially become sexually objectified?

Here are some of them based on my observation:
Coloring their lips with lipstick.
Making their eyes look prettier with mascara.
Altering the way they look with make-up.
Altering the way, they smell with perfumes, body washes etc.
Altering the way how their breasts sits, with bras.
Altering how their butt looks, with butt lifts. Etc.
All of these products are sold not by showing disgusting, unattractive women on their advertisements but by showing women that look beautiful. Why? Because women want to look beautiful! Because subconsciously most women know that life is a competition! The reason why women buy make up is because it works! Women compete with other women for high quality men and men compete with other men for high quality women. It is almost as if this thing has been going from the start of human civilization and is a biological trait that we all have!?

Now, when it comes to being objectified, the difference between men and women is that men don’t care if they are objectified! How men and women objectify, comes down to basic human biology and reproduction nature. There have been several studies that classify men as visual creatures. Men are hardwired in their DNA to seek out attractive women. Evolutionary speaking, a man looks for the best mate that will provide for them the best genes for a healthy offspring. He wants a woman who is beautiful, preferably with big breasts, wide hips and a nice butt because the evolutionary knowledge in our DNA indicates to us that a woman with big breast represents an abundance of aliment for the child. A nice butt and relatively a wide hip, reassures our biological worries that the child will not die during birth, at least in the past because today we have technology that prevent that from happening but we are evolutionary programmed to subconsciously care about things like this.

Men naturally focus on a woman’s physical appearance meanwhile women not as much on the men. Women value more, the status and the power that a man has. They are programmed to care about a guy’s social status because a higher social status usually will have more resources to care for her and the offspring that she has with the man. In a evolutionary sense a woman wants a man who will be able to care for her, provide the resources that she will need to survive and ensure that their kid will survive because this is the well-known truth, women cannot survive and gather the resources to help their children survive all on their own. They need a mate who already has or is able to go out and gather the resources while she cares for the offspring. This worrisome information is ingrained in a woman’s DNA, that is why women unintentionally or with intention, objectify men based on their success. Now times have changed, yet these primitive urges of women come because they only want to reproduce with a man who is going to be a good protector and a good provider, women still seek these attributes in men.

Biologically, visualization is connected more to male sexuality than it is with females. This what most women don’t understand. Women could wear things that could be too revealing and that makes them sexier and still women will claim that their way of dressing does not carry any sort of “message” that is to be transmitted to "the viewers". Now this claim, is either hypocritical or simply because ignorance. I believe it is the second, not in a derogatory way. Because scientifically speaking, they don’t see things as visually as men do. Women want to reveal their female sexuality but yet they’re not okay with accepting any of the consequences that come from it. So to bring it back to the “objectification theory”, consciously or unconsciously most women try to make themselves look pretty to be more appealing to the opposite sex. 
Humans as a species have been using sexual objectification on a regular for a really long time, because it works! Now, how does it work? First think of you as a female, you find a guy that you think is attractive and the guy looks at you and thinks the same of you, and then you get to know more of each other, and then you start picking on what is more important, for example: their commitment, their wisdom, their values, their humor, their ambitions, their goals and what they want out of life etc. But it all starts with the objectification. First, you have to mutually objectify one another and then you get to know each other.

Objectification is a very natural thing and there are even undeniable times when women enjoy to be objectified. Now how can that be? The reason for this, is the importance on who is doing the objectification. Just think of how popular the book/movie “50 Shades of Gray” is among women. You can only imagine how happy most women would be if they were to be objectified by a handsome, sexy, multi-millionaire as the character in the movie. The popularity of the book/movie proves my point.
Now, contrary to that, imagine a male that that the woman doesn’t have any sexual attraction for, and now imagine him to be of a low economical social class. If this man was to show any interest on the woman or “objectify” her. Then she is going to feel very uncomfortable or even offended.  This reaction is justified by feminists and I find it understandable. When you think of it in terms of biology and reproduction, objectification was put in place by evolution for a purpose. It makes men and women to be selective of their sexual partners, which explains why most men don’t have a sexual attraction to some women and vice versa, it also explains why women don’t have sexual attraction towards some men.

The reason why I dislike extreme feminists is that they like to spin the narrative of many terms but in this case, objectification and they turn it in this idea that men are always the villain or objectifiers and women are always the victims, the ones which are objectified. But we’ve already gone over this more in depth in the previews assignment so there is no need to switch our focus from the matter, which is objectification. 
Most feminists say that sexual objectification leads to catcalling and rape, but that is just a feminist theory not proven by facts or evidence.
(Some facts, ideas and evidence to back my thoughts are presented in this video, although it’s focus is “Male Privilege” it also briefly speaks about sexual objectification and rape :https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7fXAYcMIhQ)



My “problem” with objectification is that feminist and “Social Justice Warriors” are trying to go against this truth about the human nature. Women or females are naturally hypergamous and no amount of social pressure is going to change that fact about them. Men naturally prioritize beauty and certain physical attributes about women and no amount of social pressure is going to change this fact about men either.

To be honest, I see where their point is, it is not that they’re indifferent to these truths. I understand that they just want people to be polite with one an other, and give a break to the ones who can’t compete based on looks but yet even though they can still compete and be valued on their contribution to “the world” or simply just their community, yet usually there isn’t any so they "beg" for validation. And yet we all try to be polite, we know it is the right thing to do, that we shouldn’t just pay attention to only a woman’s beauty and we shouldn’t pay attention only to a mans money or social status. Sure, we try to act this way out of decency and compassion for other people because we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and also there’s a sort of pride in doing the right and moralistic thing. But that means that we are going against our evolutionary diktats ingrained in our DNA. Life is a competition where only the strong survive. Now the weak minority are using the victim card to try and change the rules so they can get some petty attention and even affection, instead of earning that attention by improving themselves as a human being, both physically and psychologically.

Think of it with a cold rationality sense, we will only be happy with our partner if we allow our natural instincts to flower. Hypergamy sure does sound somewhat negative and unfair on paper, but you should not complain about it you have to play by its rules.  You have to work with it and you have to understand it for what it is. In these modern over complicated times, some men, can be very very easily swayed by female beauty, they think that if they display pathological obsession with ones beauty and putting her on a pedestal will actually get her to like them for how they treat her.
Because every woman should be treated like a queen, right?
Wrong. You treat her like a queen and she will treat you like a servant. That’s what you’re subconsciously telling her what your worth is. Instead of putting women on a pedestal you put to use, a woman’s hypergamous nature. You become a high value man by putting in the working and aiming for financial freedom. The average man thinks that he is smarter than his closest peers. I you think that you’re smart, if you think that you’re wise. Then put that wisdom into work to make you money. Usually when you get the money, the status will come as a byproduct of the money. But if you get your status first, for example: you become a famous musician, actor or politician, then the money will follow soon after.
Looks are just as important, for a man having a basic workout routine and being well groomed should be enough while he is on his purpose to become successful.

So Looks, Money and Status. If you get these three right, many candidates will present themselves as rightful deserving “Queens” to a “King” like you. You both will feel lucky and worthy of having one another. Now sure, going back to primal instincts, men want to have a hot beautiful woman but now that as a successful man, you can get it, you’ve got to look beyond it. You've got to see beyond beauty. You got to see what kind of person she is. It sounds simple, but genetically speaking, in short term or medium term, a beautiful woman has the potential to produce beautiful healthy children. That’s what our DNA tells us to look for in a woman, but still you have to look beyond her beauty to see what kind of woman she is, because only then, you are going to figure out what kind of mother she is going to be, long term. And that is an important issue if you’re looking to “build” a healthy family.

What I mentioned in the last paragraph can be applied to both genders. It sounds so simple, yet life can be very contradicting in on itself, it leads to a lot of compromised decisions that lead to unhappiness, especially in relationships. That's why you got to look beyond looks, money and status.
Now, I am happy to share my deliberately melodramatic thoughts on life and by no means am I bothered by your life decisions, as long as they don’t affect me. You do whatever you feel makes you happy, but criticizing and disagreeing with basic survival human instincts and nature simply based on the  minorities discontent reality of life, isn’t going to change anything for the better, instead  I think its best if everyone embraces human nature and use it as fuel to better themselves!
Now  simply said, if objectification is a primal instinct that pushes men and women to be the best versions that they can be, which eventually leads to more progress and productivity given to the world, then I see nothing wrong with objectification.